I’m gonna be honest, I’m not asking for a friend, I’m asking for myself. Our daughter (24) married this man (65) in September. She herself stated money was the main reason, and he knows it but it doesn’t bother him. Both my husband & I are having a very hard time getting used to the idea.
I mean… are you shocked?
Parents raise their kids with a bare system of values and morals. It’s one of the reasons why racism is “hereditary”.
You raised her to be the person she is, or at the very least you allowed her to become the person she is.
she’s 24 years old, an adult (lacking wisdom). It’s too late for you to tell her, “whoa! pump the brakes!”
accept her decision. acknowledge the reasons why. support her when she needs you. These are the ways a parent responds when their adult child moves forward in life.
if you decide to betray that trust, it may only serve to drive a wedge and isolate her from you so far that you won’t be able to support or guide her when it actually matters.