Every group chat seems to die the moment I send 1-2 texts there. Every single one. Old, new, offline friends, online friends, everywhere. What’s going on? Are my jokes bad? Have you ever experienced this? If yes, what was the issue you found out?
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This would have been hilarious if nobody had replied…
It’s all in your head dude. Don’t worry about it.
I actually wanted make a joke on that in the post itself lol.
I was half expecting a ton of upvotes and no comments.
I’m going to be honest and try not to be rude. This is only my observation from my perspective and may be wildly wrong. I looked through your comment history. You seem to be polite and communicative. That’s not a bad thing. However, your comments don’t seem very funny or interesting to me. I communicate through humor. I understand that it is subjective, but I’m not often in chats or conversations that awkwardly die out.
Show some more of your personality in what you say. Compliment others. Leave them with questions. Do you think maybe the answer to your question isn’t what you are saying, it’s how you are saying it?
Tough but honest advice. I can relate to needing this advice but I’ve come to accept who I am. People just like sincerity, too. Organic, not shoehorned comments. No compliment fishing, etc… The group you’re chatting with also just may not be your kind of people; you just may not have realized it yet.
Alternatively chat groups do spontaneously die and you may only be consciously aware when it’s you who commented last; but you may not be so aware of the chat groups that died with someone else’s comments.
Holy shit, the sociology of group chats is complex as fuck judging from these comments. I hate them too much to ever have stopped and wondered why I hate them.
My suggestion would echo Bukowski: Don’t try. It’s perfectly fine to only respond in the group chat when something needs to be coordinated. Everything else one on one communication is better for. And if you do feel like interacting, don’t force it. Silence is never wrong. On the contrary.
I don’t even do group chats for party invitations. I just text everyone individually. It’s a little more work but it’s so much nicer, as far as I’m concerned.
Then again, I was born in the 90s. I’m a grumpy old man and without a doubt out of thouch.
I was born in the 90s. I’m a grumpy old man
I feel my bones turning to dust reading this.
Since when is 35-24 old lmao
When it comes to digital communication, I think I might be a dinosaur. I have never used Discord or TikTok. My group chat experience as a teenager was on IRC.
Culturally I am also out of touch - I come from a time when young people were reliably progressive, and where there did not seem to be a huge political gender divide. I feel weirdly removed from those born ten years after me, who are now around 20.
Sure, I’m in a few group chats on WhatsApp and Facebook Messenger, and I know these situations in the abstract. But if OP is a teenager they probably come from a completely different world than I do.
I’m just not with it any more, you know. I wear an onion in my belt.
That said, I of course agree completely that I am the embodiment of youth in most aspects of life!
I’m so with you on this. Only much moreso. WITF would I EVER want to use stupid little computer where you have to type with your THUMBS? And costs TWICE as much as a great desktop?
“Portability” they say. Hell I went out-of-house to AVOID phonecalls, to live in the material world, not to walk down the street looking in the direction of my toes, missing everything going on around me, talking to invisible people. Pathetic.
+1 just for mentioning Bukowsky … he is WAY underrepresented on the Internet (which explains why it’s in this state)
Upvotes for the sincerity.
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i used to struggle with this too, op.
the only reason i don’t struggle with it anymore is because i ran out of sufficient energy to struggle.
however, that was not what resolved it–not directly.
no longer agonizing over my conversations had other effects.
i decided that if all i can be is background noise, then i shall be background noise. and that … loosened my hesitation. i physically lost the ability to attach any kind of ulterior motive or emotional baggage to what i wanted to say, and so, my messaging became more open and honest as a result, in a way i never had the choice to implement at will. it took breaking down to no longer proverbially have a wall there.
and then, at another point after this had metaphorically cleaned my slate, i decided to start over by embodying what i felt was missing. i would be the warmth that no one was showing. i would greet, and encourage, and ask nonbinary question–but i don’t think this would have worked if i had not first shattered my own guard and begun engaging my social interactions with totally exposed vulnerability.
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Nope I am not that open irl
You might be over thinking your jokes. Try not editing your reaction thoughts. The first thing you think is often wrong or absurd but it can also be very funny because its wrong or absurd.
For example, Louis CK has a joke about seeing a person walking with their dog, and also talking on the phone. The person is holding the leash and the phone in the same hand, so the thought that popped into Louie’s head was, “I wonder what the benefits are of hooking your phone up to your dogs leash?”.
Jokes need to be some version of something you really shouldnt say, for them to be funny. Reasons you shouldnt say something could be: its shocking, its silly or wrong on purpose, its taboo societally, its offensive, it punches down, its too personal, etc etc.
They can smell it on you like a dog.
In my experience every chat group has a person that’s the glue. What I mean is sometimes unintentionally that group chat only reacts when the glue person(s) are engaging. So if you work out who that is in your group and have them engage with you, it’ll become lively.
I’ve noticed something similar to this, where I walk into a room and it goes silent enough that it’s like the stereotype of a cowboy walking into a saloon. There’s only one place where I can trust this to never happen.
I used to have this problem and I’m not sure exactly how to fix it but I can say that it helps a lot if you consider what potential responses you might get before you speak. Don’t just say things because you want to say them, say things because they open up the conversation for interesting responses. This is not the same as “asking a lot of questions” because that’s exhausting, as anyone who’s dealt with a Sealion knows. Instead, try to say things that are open-ended. If your chat’s tone is comedic, try not fixing your typos so that someone else can chain a joke off of them. If the chat’s tone is serious, try making an analogy that connects the current topic to a previous one. If the chat’s tone is toxic, you can leave.
Everyone wants group chats to die
Everyone is a bot except you.
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Gotta get there earlier … before all those other thoughts get a chance to drown out your perfectly sensible thoughts.
I’m not a joking person and I feel similar situations. Maybe I’m the extreme opposite, my (almost) complete lack of lightheartedness leads me to face echo chambers, both IRL and in the cyberspace. I do some memes and I say/post some funny things but my essence is imbued with non-conformist thoughts.
I know my jokes are fire because I get validation here.
It’s the chat rooms that suck. 😬
Look at it like this: You know how actors are told to break a leg and comedians are told to knock 'em dead? You just floored them with your text and they’re dead from laughing.
