I’m gonna be honest, I’m not asking for a friend, I’m asking for myself. Our daughter (24) married this man (65) in September. She herself stated money was the main reason, and he knows it but it doesn’t bother him. Both my husband & I are having a very hard time getting used to the idea.

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    I’ll add one thing to other’s responses. Make sure she, not they, but she is covered financially. If she spends 10 years with him, not developing her career, and he drops her, will she be OK?

    I.E. its perfectly OK for them to have this arrangement, it’s not OK for her to be in a situation where she feels trapped by money.

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      Bahaha dude u realized she “trapped” herself in that scenario?

      How did we get to a place where people don’t deserve the consequences of their actions?

      She only “deserves this” if it makes her rich???

      Do u see how fucked in the head you are for thinking that?

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        How is “make sure she has a backup plan” anything at all like what you said?

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          That’s someone who is mad because they can’t marry someone for money and no one wants to buy pictures of their feet.

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            Hey, I’m mad about those things but that doesn’t mean I’m out here being an asshole about it…

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              Have you tried selling pictures of your feet? A lot of folks are mad that they can’t but they haven’t even tried yet.

              But, to be honest, I’m pretty sad that I couldn’t marry for money. I would have made an amazing trophy husband in my youth.

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                I’m kinda glad I couldn’t marry for money when I was younger. I’ve been in a place where I would’ve and a gilded cage still traps you. I think by my age I’d’ve been miserable like that. Now sex work? Main reason I never picked up that side hustle is I can’t advertise for shit and trying sounds awful, and knowing people like me who’ve done it I don’t think it would’ve caused me nearly the issues of gold digging.

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                  I totally get it, and the truth is that none of us really know how we’d react if it’s not us in the situation. We can only guess.

                  I’d like to think being ridiculously wealthy wouldn’t change me but we all see how most rich folks act. I’d like to think I’d spend my time in that gilded cage gaining skills and stocking up on money so that once I’m free I’ll have a life of relative ease. However, I don’t know that and I suspect I’d have done nothing of the sort. But it’s nice to dream.

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                Hi would you like to buy some feet?

                PICTURES. pictures of feet.

                I’ll sell you pictures of my feet.

                Not another human foot hahaha that would be weird. Unless…

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            It’s the fact that he sounds like one of those incels who gets really upset by the idea that sex work and mutually agreeable transactional relationships shouldn’t end in the financially benefiting side getting cheated out of what they agreed on

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        A transactional relationship shouldn’t end in one party pulling the rug out.

        But also, her parents should be largely concerned with her happiness and stability.