I’m gonna be honest, I’m not asking for a friend, I’m asking for myself. Our daughter (24) married this man (65) in September. She herself stated money was the main reason, and he knows it but it doesn’t bother him. Both my husband & I are having a very hard time getting used to the idea.

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    Adult people are entitled to make their own decisions under the FAFO maxim.

    Your opinion on it is just that, an opinion. As far as idiotic shit to do, this is mid tier. You still got your daughter etc. focus on that.

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      Idiotic? This is a low tier mistake. Everyone wins regardless. The only thing she loses is the ability to marry someone her age and enjoy youthful things together with them. Just because she’s married doesn’t mean she can’t go off on her own to have fun.

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        You are assuming there won’t be a negative externality resulting from this behavior, I give you 99% chance there will be issues.

        Half the people can’t maintain “normal” marriage with proper “feels” lol

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          In that case, at worst she walks from the marriage with nothing more than she entered into it with. Mundane daily issues are going to hit all relationships, so I don’t think that’s something to worry about. Conservatively, he divorces her and she walks with half of the investment income he accrued during the marriage. At best, she walks with half. That doesn’t take into consideration that she’ll have most certainly gotten (or shared) a car, a house, and food paid for the duration.

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            This is very transaction approach, I don’;t think human relationships work like this even in pure business situations tbh

            Maybe that’s just me.

            Every relationship had a mental cost, some good and so not so good.

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        City girls just seem to find out early
        How to open doors with just a smile
        A rich old man, and she won’t have to worry
        She’ll dress up all in lace go in style