• TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    I will never understand comparing one’s self to others. You’re like comparing Xbox to PlayStation. I remember my mother comparing my siblings and I to our cousins who were hustling at a young age (looking back now as an adult, it wasn’t a good thing considering their circumstances at the time). I retorted by saying they’re different people, why should I care? Then thankfully my dad backed me up from my mom’s nonsense!

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      9 months ago

      Opposite for me. Parents always put me down and compared me to others. When I told my mum I wanted to be a plumber because they make a lot of money, she made me clean the toilets in the house for 2 years.

      But that desire to gain your parents’ approval is strong. I was a dumb kid with bad grades, and while I got into university, it wasn’t a top tier one. Worked my butt off everyday, in part because I never got that praisal. Slow and steady, but I finally made it to a good job.

      (Granted, plumbers still make a lot and my parents were kind of dicks for not realizing that, but my ambitions grew greater than that dream)