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    Oh boy liberal vs conservative, what a wide variety of political opinion allowed for by the “financial times”

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        They’re not, this is the traditional polling version of liberal vs. conservative — the one that everyone who is not terminally online uses and can understand as it has been around for over a century.

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          They’re not, this is the traditional polling version of liberal vs. conservative — the one that everyone who is not terminally online uses

          How do you describe the right wing ideology of liberalism in a not confusing way without rejecting liberalism=left as a definition?

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            Easy, I use political science terms and traditional analysis instead of terminally online ones. The important thing to remember is that liberal vs. conservative is an ideological midpoint for the discourse being discussed and/or measured. You can apply this to any group or discourse — in the OP it’s being applied to the whole of a nation’s body politic. However, you can just as easily apply such a division to only self-described leftists — thus creating a conservative subgroup who still exist well to the left side of the entire population, but are to the right of the other ideological half of the spectrum of this subgroup.

            There isn’t an objective midpoint in ideology that applies across political systems and time. Which is good, because the overall trend throughout history is leftward and a relative system is able to both capture that as well as provide descriptive value for a given measurement period.

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              Easy, I use political science terms and traditional analysis

              I literally use “liberal” to mean liberal capitalist because I read political economics books. When you say “political science” and “traditional analysis” you are referring to something that is a lot less universal than you think it is.

              Also like how do you talk about liberalism and neoliberalism in a non confusing way while also claiming liberalism is left? You didn’t answer my question you just took a swipe.

              The important thing to remember is that liberal vs. conservative is an ideological midpoint for the discourse being discussed and/or measured

              Except this is a very narrow overton window(more like an arrow slit) and if you limit your discussion to it you miss a lot of context and analysis.

              Which is good, because the overall trend throughout history is leftward and a relative system is able to both capture that as well as provide descriptive value for a given measurement period.

              This is kinda unfalsifiable

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                Also like how do you talk about liberalism and neoliberalism in a non confusing way while also claiming liberalism is left?

                You make it clear with your audience that you’re talking about the “liberal” in the economic sense and not “liberal” in the philosophical sense. From a philosophical perspective is the difference between being pro changes (liberal) vs being against changes (conservative), and as the person previously mentioned, in this sense you could say there are conservative communists (want to follow Marx’s philosophy to the letter) and liberal communists (believe in the basic principles but feel some things need to be adjusted), just like there are liberal conservatives (believe in small/efficient State but individual freedoms) and conservative conservatives (social conservatives).

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                  You make it clear with your audience that you’re talking about the “liberal” in the economic sense and not “liberal” in the philosophical sense.

                  Liberalism as a philosophy is connected to the economic structure? Are you referring to a different philosophy and calling it liberal?

                  From a philosophical perspective is the difference between being pro changes (liberal) vs being against changes (conservative)

                  Okay, yes, you are. Liberalism is literally the status quo.

                  in this sense you could say there are conservative communists (want to follow Marx’s philosophy to the letter) and liberal communists (believe in the basic principles but feel some things need to be adjusted)

                  You literally can’t be a marxist and take Marx as dogma. Marxism is a process based ideology.

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            the right wing ideology of liberalism

            WTF do you think “liberalism” means? It’s the opposite of authoritarianism, it’s not really left or right.

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            Exactly. And these terms have been used in both academic and general public forums for a very long time. It’s such a weird thing to get hung up on.

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      FT is pretty solid when it comes to data analysis like this. The point is to show a specific trend not to encompass all the data in the sources.

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        Because gaps in data are a thing? I dunno, it doesn’t really seem to change the story or the outcome. Your concerns seem overblown.

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    not surprising. the american right is specifically catered to address male grievances.

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        And how do they exploit them?
        By keeping them at a hysterical fever pitch, 24/7.
        Amplifying ignorance, weaponizing mental illness.
        That is the right wing and republicans, with every profane breath.

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      This data is the World world, not just “America world”.

      Also, if men are going right, then the left needs to step up their offering.

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          While this is true, it’s also true that pendulum swings can go further in the opposite direction than equality.

          While a trite example, in the recent Barbie film, at the end when things are going back to the seemingly good way, the men in Barbieland ask if they can have a seat on the supreme court and are told no, which is then explained as Barbieland being a mirror to the real world such that as there’s increased equality in the real world then equality for men in the mirror would increase.

          Apparently the writers weren’t familiar with the fact there’s four women on the supreme court right now and a woman has been on the court since 1981 (around twice as close to the creation of Barbie than to the present day).

          Even in the context of its justifiably imbalanced equality it failed to be proportionally imbalanced.

          There’s interesting research around how the privileged underestimate the degree to which the good things that happen to them are because of privilege, but that at the same time the underprivileged overestimate how often the bad things which happen are because of bias. In theory both are ego-preserving adaptations. But it also means that either side is going to have a difficult time correctly identifying equality from their relative subjective perspectives.

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            While a trite example, in the recent Barbie film

            You mean self aware, hyperbolic satire?

            They know there have been women on the supreme court. It was a reference to second wave feminism, and inverted because that was the joke.

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            It was a film about plastic dolls from a corporation trying to seem less like a big bad corporation. If you’re using the Barbie movie as evidence in an actual philosophical debate around other human beings having equal rights, you have bigger problems in life.

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          Correct. Why would anyone go for a worse option for themselves?

          Edit: A benefit to one group does not mean a detriment to others. This is not a zero sum game.

          The funny thing is that the left could offer so many things for men:

          • address mental health issues
          • paternal leave / support for fatherhood
          • Less dangerous work
          • rehabilitation in prisons
          • a free lamborghini
          • address homelessness

          All of which are mostly men issues.

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                You’re not wrong, but the wage gap? Not going to close if we give everyone a raise. It would be the same wage gap.

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                  The gender pay gap is insignificant and inconsequential compared to the income differences between working and owning classes. Also, much of the pay gap is due to men culturally tending to not have the option of escaping the grindset. “Honey I’m going to quit my job and do something that doesn’t alienate me, yes it’s going to pay less” is not something universally accepted by wives.

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                  I’m pretty sure that by this point most reasonable people have realized that the wage gap is a myth, so that’s probably not your best example.

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        We tried that, ended up with a bunch of grifters coming in, doing a bunch of damage, and then making “why I left the left” videos.

        There is a path of healing but it’s not going to happen until they address their white supremacy and take it behind the shed.

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    I personally don’t like how the top left one starts at 2005, unlike every other graph, but they all have the same x scale. (I nitpick things sometimes)

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    That’s not an ideology gap, that’s feminism vs machism, by the look of it.

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      Got any reading you’d recommend? All I’m finding is some links to Ernst Mach, but they aren’t very helpful in their definition of “Machism.” Is it related to machismo in any way?

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        I quickly translated the French word. It’s how some people can hate women and believe they’re inferior or crazy or whatever.

        What I’m saying in my comment is that the graphs seem much more about feminism vs the opposite than it is about conservatism vs whatever else. Now there is a link between thee two. But saying it’s conservative vs progress is abusive imo and missing the problem.

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    This data is anything but beautiful. Its horrendously laid out. Not intuitive in the slightest.

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    Maybe the fact that conservative governments erode the rights of women?

    I think that’s probably the biggest driver the last 10 years.

    A FUCKTONNE of women I know became a hell of a lot less conservative when Roe Vs Wade was overturned.

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      A FUCKTONNE of women I know became a hell of a lot less conservative when Roe Vs Wade was overturned.

      Now if only they would vote like it

      Republicans also gained support from a higher share of women compared with previous elections: 48% of women voters cast ballots for GOP candidates in 2022 while 51% favored Democrats. In 2018, 40% voted for Republicans while 58% supported Democrats.

      For further context, the Dobbs decision was June 2022…

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      Maybe the fact that conservative governments erode the rights of women?

      Do they really? I know about stuff in the US, but what about the other countries. At least for Germany I can say that in the last 10 years I can’t really recall anything where the government tried to worsen women’s rights.

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        Herdprämie.

        The constitutional court axed the whole thing because it’s outside of the jurisdiction of the federation, Bavaria, and only Bavaria then went ahead and made it state law. They also consistently score worst when it comes to access to abortions.

        That’s the CSU though, the CDU had lots of high-ranking women at that time which explains why they weren’t pushing things into that direction. And the whole republic ridiculed vdL for trying to get rid of Vatertag, rightly so.

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          Yeah, I remember that, but I wouldn’t call that worsening women’s rights, it was something completely optional and if at all only highlighted existing sexism. It was more or less a susidy for families that didn’t sent their kids to kindergarten, the law didn’t state which parent had to take care of the children or anything like that. There was criticism that children wouldn’t grow up around other children and that it would hold women back in their careers because it would most likely be the mother who stays at home, but that’s not the fault of the law. And similar programs exist in Norway, Sweden and Denmark, and generally people consider those countries as progressive.

          Regarding abortions one law making it hard to access was the ridiculous § 219a StGB and that was abolished in 2022. The other problem is that doctors can’t be forced to perform abortions. The problem in general here is religious groups.

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        Compared to America, most conservative German politicians are damn near moderates.

        I know for a fact that they would be called ‘damn libruhls’ by nearly every republicunt they shared their policy ideals with.

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          It’s so ridiculous, last year some politicians from the CSU visited De Santis. They regularly copy talking points from the US, which make absolutely no sense. They even tried the “drag queens are groomers” thing, but it didn’t catch on. Next they’ll probably try to ban books or some other bullshit like that.

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      It’s relative to the nationstate’s domestic policies in question. And just a heads up, I know when people make statements like this it just reveals a lack of understanding regarding foreign countries’ domestic politics. However, it’s also important to point out that the meme itself is incredibly ethnocentric and is fundamentally based on a dismissal of the validity of political discourse outside Western Europe and North America. You don’t mean to be racist, right?

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          Bernie believes in the eradication of capitalism, he’s a socialist working in a fucked over Overton window that means the best policies he can argue for would fall under social democracy at best.

          Which, to be very clear, makes him a raging commie by American political standards.

          The only people who argue he’s a capitalist are people that think socialism is when poor.

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    If I am reading this correctly, men drifting towards conservative and women drifting towards liberal?

    That would reflect the culture found in apps - I feel like men with andrew tate and things like truth social/rumble/kick and women drift more towards stuff like reddit/tiktok/instagram where you can usually see a lot more liberal idealogy.

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    Until there’s a liberal space for men, it’s going to cause them to flock to lying conservatives. There, they will be indoctrinated by weird, stupid conservative bullshit that has nothing to do with any of this.

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      There isn’t? Millions of liberal men can man just fine every day just out in public.

      What are you missing?

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        So you don’t think there are any issues with how men are treated on the left?

        As progressive as the left can be, men have been left behind and are still often expected to ‘just be a man’, while dealing with double standards and sometimes being treated like they’re inherently bad.

        Edit: Copying what vzq has said to me for visibility, as this is the exact problem. Do I sound like the angry toddler in this discussion?

        “I want to be treated fairly and based on how I act, and yet I don’t get that.” You are being treated based on how act. You act like a spoiled toddler that thinks he’s owed some consideration by strangers.

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          How exactly are men treated by the left? Perhaps you can give some examples so people understand what your problem is.

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          I believe these issues exist in some places in the world like the usa.

          Personally as a cis man i dont experience these issues at all. I am more radical left leaning then my sisters.

          The right just appear like some intolerant macho cult. They are the last people i would feel safe.

          It has to be set though I recognize many fellow men do exhibit this weird macho psychology as well as laziness and illusion that they somehow know me or what i want. I never consider that to have political grounds.

          If i have a choice to interact with either sex i am Biased to chose the women because i feel like there actually perceive and speak to me as individual rather then pretending i am their best friend cardboard cutout.

          In my experience women are more honest as sales people and more helpfull as a frontdesk clerk. This is bias and exceptions exist. I myself am an exceptions. Statistical perception though…

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            I haven’t heard another guy talk about other dudes assuming you are just like them/same politics etc, but its something I’ve experienced a lot. I often have to break the news I’m not a safe space for whatever bs they are spewing.

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          No, I honestly do not. I do my level best to treat everyone as a person and when I mess up I apologize and try and do better. That works pretty well.

          If you are treated like you are inherently bad, you may be not as good as you think you are.

          Edit: nice edit man. Totally not what an angry toddler would do.

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            If you are treated like you are inherently bad, you may be not as good as you think you are.

            Ah, blame the victim. Men get treated a certain way so it must be their fault…

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            Again, just disregarding how men feel, where does that get us?

            I absolutely do not act in the way that men are accused of, but blanket statements about “MeN BaD” are so frequent and widely accepted, and it’s just ignored or even praised.

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              Can you give a more precise example? I hope you do not mean individuals who write stuff online. In what way do left oriented organisations treat all men like they are bad?

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      Counterpoint - men need to be less hung up on gender.

      There’s plenty of liberal spaces for people even if not exclusively for men.

      As a guy, I don’t need a sign outside saying “Open for men” to know I can go into a store, just “Open” suffices.

      While there are aspects of my life that are informed by my biology and its social construct, it’s one of the least defining aspects of who I am as a person. I don’t need it specially recognized.

      I’d much rather live in a world where there’s spaces for “people who like RPGs and fantasy” or “people who like tech” over “people who identify as male.” I have a ton in common with the former two, irrespective of gender identities, and very little in common with the latter other than fairly superficial things.

      “Hey, pee standing up? Me too! We have so much in common we should be friends. Oh, you want to meet up at the bar to watch the latest hockey game? Yeah, that sounds…fun…”

      The very idea of a “liberal space for men” is antithetical to my sense of liberalism. We should be liberated from arbitrary notions of identity, not reinforced into them.

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      The left is the only place that is safe to open up as a man.

      The right is only safe if you fit a very specific definition of manliness, one that is unrealistic. However that illusion sends millions of the gullible and impressionable chasing after an unobtainable standard.

      On the far-right you’ll get punched if you like making caramel and baking cakes. The close right just calls you a slur instead.

      There are few things more alienating to the wide range of male expression than the right wing.

      I grew up as a conservative and was never accepted. Opening up, being emotionally vulnerable, expressing “feminine” (ie non traditional) interests: every time it lost me any sort of male friendship. I was excluded, mocked and called homophobic slurs.

      I’m a cisgender straight white man but because I was a square peg to their traditional round hole I was an outcast.

      The right is the cause of male depression and loneliness. It enforces the gender norms that make men feel they have to be a rock, provide for family, die for their country, shut up about their feelings.

      The only safe place for men to open up is on the left.

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        The right is the cause of male depression and loneliness

        I feel you, but you should probably say “The right is the cause of MY depression and loneliness”. Different men have different experiences, and suffering doesn’t depend on whatever people perceive as “left” or “right”.

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          The overwhelming majority of all the right-wing men I’ve ever met have been a thousand times more miserable, angry, and bottled up than their left counterparts. The right wing inherently fosters that kind of existence with its rigidity, judgment, paranoia, and aggression.

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        Starting by removing the association between masculinity and being a bigot by changing male social behavior seems to be the logical first step. The change absolutely has to come from within. Starting by not tolerating it when your buddies say bigoted shit seems insignificant but is a huge step in the positive direction, and every small change counts.

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        Gangs are inclusive and welcoming even if they haze you and commit crimes. People who feel left out gravitate toward unconventional solutions to conventional problems.

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      Surely this is intersectional though right? Not all men are the same or have the same experience of political issues. I can see how straight white cis men might feel like these spaces aren’t for them. But queer men might feel differently about this. Black men also.

      Also if you feel like existing spaces aren’t for you, then free to create your own spaces. There’s nothing holding you back.

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      This is it.

      Men underperform in things like education and work.

      Who gets all the help? Women.

      There is so much toxic feminism that doesn’t get attention. A male only shelter got shut down by me because the feminists protested so much until it got shut down.

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      Until there’s a liberal space for men, it’s going to cause them to flock to lying conservatives.

      I mean, they/we also could create these spaces for us, much in the same way women did (and many other groups). And of course it’s easier to fall for reactionary groups when liberal groups are less visible, but it’s still a decision to follow their bullshit.

      Shoutout to !mensliberation@lemmy.ca (and similar spaces)

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        The issue is that these spaces are often prime trolling grounds, and you end up having the same discussions over and over until the honest posters move on and only trolls are left.

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          Which is why the heavily moderated menslib sub on Reddit was so great, because they didn’t put up with that BS.

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        As soon as men try to organize and speak out we get called sexist. If men wanted to start a men only club like women are allowed they would be forced to let women in. Just look at the boy scouts (ignoring the pedophiles) they were forced to allow girls but the girl scouts don’t have to allow boys. Males can’t have anything male only.

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          As soon as men try to organize and speak out we get called sexist.

          That’s simply not true. We have at least one counselling centre in our city that is “boys/young men only” and several “men only” self help groups. I’ve never heard them being called sexist, on the contrary people generally agree that this is a good thing and we need more of this. And they are certainly not forced to include other genders.

          There are obviously not enough initiatives like these. But a blanket statement like yours is false and if you make the claim that men are regularly getting called out as sexist for forming liberal safe spaces you should provide some sources (I’m not denying that it happens, it’s just not something I’ve experienced).

          Just look at the boy scouts (ignoring the pedophiles)

          The goal of boy scouts wasn’t to provide a safe space to explore gender identity or emotions or anything like that. There was no reason to exclude other genders.

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              I don’t think so.

              What are you trying to say? I don’t know that much about Scouting in the U.S. At least in Germany we didn’t have this gender divide in scouting, but as GSUSA were founded after the BSA I suspect that their goal was to provide scouting for girls because they couldn’t join BSA.

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                The other guy said men can’t have man-only spaces, referring to Boy Scouts in contrast to Girl Scouts, and you said that Boy Scouts isn’t supposed to be a safe space to explore gender identity or emotions. If Girl Scouts isn’t that kind of thing either, then that sounds like you think men only get to have that kind of man-only space, while women can have whatever.

                As a man, if the only man-only spaces available were about gender identity or emotions, I’d probably go to neither. The former because I’m fully comfortable as a man (and the use of the term “gender identity” there implies it’s more for trans people,) and the latter because I don’t have significant issues with my emotions. Frankly, I don’t really mind that most of the clubs and events that interest me are co-ed, but if there was a recurring women-only Minecraft party or something and there was never one for men, I’d be upset about that.

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            Women get told they need there own spaces for mental health, women’s issues, to have women’s chat.

            Men aren’t allowed those things. They are told they never open up, they are toxic they shouldn’t be acting x,y,z and they should be more like girls.

            What you are saying is when all thr fallout occurs then they get help. You are fixing a problem when their could be a solution before it becomes a problem.

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        It would be great if there was mens clubs to just hang out, drink, talk, play games things like that. In fact there was and they were HUGE but men aren’t allowed them now.

        It would be great if boys could have that. Almost like a girls scouts but for boys.

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        Liberal narratives paint men as aggressive rapists at worst, and toxic manipulative sociopath at best. Liberal narratives onstantly evoke “tHe pATriArcHy” and “tOxic mAsCuLinity” hiding misandry behind pseudointellectualism

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          Brosif, calling a discussion of the patriarchy misandry makes it clear you don’t know what the patriarchy even is. It hurts everyone.

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            This is the pseudointellectualism I’m talking about. “You don’t actually understand what it ACTUALLY means” while the meanings are clearly obfuscated for the layperson.

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            Brosef, the term “patriarchy” itself is (and has always been) intentionally misleading and inherently misandrist, and has played a huge role in the modern demonization of men as a result. The “academic definition” of the term is irrelevant, as the (fully intended) real world negative consequences of the term for men in the cultural zeitgeist have been systemic and pervasive, as we can see all over this thread.

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          ‘Toxic masculinity’ is referring specifically to masculinity that is toxic. It’s not referring to masculinity as a whole as toxic.

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            Pushes in glasses “uuum ackshually that’s not what it means”

            Yeah no shit, tell that to the people on social media where the majority of popular discord takes place. And pretending that the meaning of the two isn’t obfuscated is disingenuous. At the end of the day it’s all antipositivists theory garbage that reads more like a political treatise than academic study.

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              Exactly. Feminist terminology like “toxic masculinity” and “patriarchy” has been very carefully chosen to be misandrist enough to result in the intended widespread popular demonization of men that we’ve seen over the past few decades, while also giving feminists enough deniability to gaslight with “that’s not what the terms ackchually mean though”.

              The misandry is a feature, not a bug.

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          While those are some examples of “liberal narratives”, there’s also a very real “men are harmed by the patriarchy too” narrative.

          I see the problem you see and I agree with you about it, it’s just the narratives you’ve described aren’t the only liberal narratives.

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            That whole men are hurt by the patriarcy too is a cop-out when people get called out on their bullshit ideology

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        Liberal, as in, believing in liberty. Freedom. How many mens spaces do you know of, where a man is completely free to open up, with full liberty and freedom from immediate consequences, about feelings they may have inside of them?

        There’s actually not a lot. It’s a reflection of masculine indoctrination, where men in many places are made to feel like they almost need to be ready to become a soldier at any moment. Guarded, careful. It’s no good, unless your country is actually at war.

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          That has nothing to do with spaces. It’s toxic masculinity. And you combat that by being the change you want to see.

          Even if there was a space like that, toxic masculinity would ruin it if it wasn’t addressed. But you might just be looking for group therapy.

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            So, spaces that encourage toxic masculinity do exist, and they are fully aware of their ruination. See: 4chan.org.

            edit: I see some of the confusion here, since 4chan is seemingly liberal, due to having no formal rules. However, that is an illusion. A man is not actually free to say anything they like without consequences there. It’s just that the norms will be enforced by the community, instead of any kind of authority. This is not actual liberty and freedom, simply indoctrination cloaked in an illusion of freedom.

            Real freedom would allow a man to express something like sympathy, or being against gamergate, and express that opinion in peace. The reality of such spaces does not actually permit this.

            It seems liberal and free, but in effect it is not. This is similar to how Trump seems to be strong sometimes, but in reality is weak and cowardly. Toxic masculinity loves its illusions.

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            Sure. Go over into 4chan and try any behavior they would describe as “white knighting” or “simping”. You will rapidly experience some social consequences intended to dissuade that behavior.

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              Experiencing social consequences for saying something people disagree with is not infringing on your freedom. Unless they band together and try to go further than simply not liking what you have to say, how is that stopping men from saying their opinion on 4chan?

              Independently, I wouldn’t call 4chan a liberal place. As far as I know, 4chan started and participated in activities in the past that go far beyond simply not liking an opinion. They doxxed, harassed and threatened people, among other things. And with support from many people on that platform.

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                Liberal in the traditional sense, as in, believing in liberty, I’m being technical. Not meaning “leftist” the way the word has been rebranded by right-leaners. So, their adoption of “no rules” is ultra-liberal, or libertarian perhaps.

                And all social consequences are social. Drawing a distinction between legal and social is arbitrary. Suffering is suffering, and employing it to control dissenting voices is fundamentally illiberal. If you can prevent certain messages from appearing on your platform, you have successfully executed a form of control.

                Thus, their ultra-liberty is an illusion. It’s not real.

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          The only places I have been close to that are “toxic” male places. All boys clubs, drinking clubs, rugby clubs.

          But women see them as toxic and label then like that. But if you talk to them you get more toxic than from these clubs they aren’t a part of that tell you how horrible they are.

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            So, I’m not a woman, nor am I overly feminine, and I still call out toxic bullshit when I see it. If you want to say the problem is women/feminists though, fine whatever, if we cleaned up our own shit first, we might be able to make that stick. But when we’re bastards and they’re bitches, and we complain, we’re kinda the fucked up ones, y’know? Since we were supposed to be strong in the first place.

            Unless you just think life is shit and everyone should get used to it. Then, just move to Russia or something, for everyone’s sake.

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    1. Looks like I need to move to the UK

    2. So what this is saying is that women are going to save our collective asses.