I disavow the ignorance displayed in the statement that “Feminists always think women are better than men.” But felt important to share how well received such a message is received on this site.

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    • Zagorath@aussie.zone
      13·
      4 days ago

      I’m sorry drag, but it’s just not transphobia to not be willing to use bespoke alternative second person pronouns. Second person pronouns are probably the single most closed class in the English language.

      • Dragon Rider (drag)@lemmy.nzEnglish
        5·
        4 days ago

        That’s not what drag is talking about.

        Drag is talking about the aftermath of the time drag made two posts on c/yepowertrippinbastards, and some furry came to both posts to start fights, say nounself pronouns are trash, ping random other people to get them to fight drag, call drag a troll for being trans, and give fake bans to drag in the modlog. Then, when drag went to the admins of the furry instance to complain about the mod abuse, this guy created an alt account to harass himself while pretending to be drag, and pinging various other people in the furry community to start fights in the same strategy he used on his own account. The end result of which was a bunch of furries who drag has never heard of assuming drag pinged them and harassed this guy, and spreading rumours about drag, just as this guy planned.

        And the specific aftermath drag is talking about is when drag was banned from c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone for “encouraging suicide” (telling trans Americans to shoot Nazis). Drag contacted the mods and explained the situation, and they said they were wrong to ban drag for encouraging suicide, but that they’d heard some “more serious accusations” that they refused to share, but that were now the reason for the ban. So in short, drag got banned from a trans community for secret reasons and was given no chance to appeal.

        What drag thinks happened is that furry guy, being a skilled manipulator with deep knowledge of Lemmy systems and a grudge against nounself pronoun users, convinced that mod team to go along with his campaign against drag, while hiding his transphobic intentions behind the false flag campaign. So the mod team thought they were protecting trans users on their community from harassment. They had good intentions. But the intention guiding their actions without their knowledge was this transphobic guy who loves starting fights and hates nounself pronouns. They sided with a transphobic bad actor over a trans member of their community because they were lied to. And if they had followed proper moderation procedure about not banning people for secret reasons, it wouldn’t have happened. Which is why these kinds of procedures exist in the first place, it’s to protect people from disinformation campaigns. So in drag’s opinion, those mods bear some responsibility for the hidden intention guiding their actions, because they weren’t careful enough to keep the transphobia out of their actions.

          • Dragon Rider (drag)@lemmy.nzEnglish
            3·
            4 days ago

            Thank you for understanding. Drag doesn’t demand other people use drag’s preferred pronouns, and drag guesses that must be pretty unusual for a trans person. Human brains are pattern matching prediction machines. Everyone knows misgendering is wrong, so people’s brains match the pattern and assume that must be the issue drag is talking about. It’s a matter of using too much brain and not enough eyeball.

      • BlitzoTheOisSilent@lemmy.world
        7·
        4 days ago

        I’ve exchanged dozens of comments with drag, drag is a snowflake troll. In all of our interactions, I misgendered drag once and drag immediately capitulated on it and acts like I’ve maliciously set out to torture drag for making a mistake, once. Drag then turned on me for defending drag’s pronouns in a discussion about how many feel new and modern pronouns don’t deserve respect, claiming I am lying about drags pronouns and only did it to hurt drag.

        But drag refuses to apologize for calling me a Nazi, or any of the other insults drag has hurled at me, because drag feels I’m a Nazi for criticizing Harris/the DNC despite me being a trans veteran who voted for Harris.

        Don’t engage with drag.